Why do men like women's butts? How does the shape of a women's butt matter in sexual pleasure?

The first thing to remember is that "men" don't like anything uniformly. There are over 3 billion men on earth, and not all of them are straight. So, the options for this question are:

a) why do butts, on average, seem to be a feature of the female body that is considered attractive more than other body parts; or
b) why do a particular population of straight men, in a particular time and place, seem to focus a great deal of attention on women's butts.

The evolutionary biologists have all sorts of theories that claim to answer question a). They'll tell you that this statistical average relates to something like signs of fertility, or links to our near evolutionary relatives. However, this type of science is pretty suspect. In reality, no one has done a giant multi-country study asking everyone around the world to rate the most attractive body parts, and then followed up that study with further attempts to eliminate external variables. Evolutionary biologists, many of whom are themselves straight men from a specific place and time, simply assume that everyone likes butts. So, let's go with Occam's razor and simply conclude that evolutionary biologists like butts and have projected this perspective out on all the rest of us.

On to question b), then, which is the more interesting one anyway. It is very clear that in some places and times, the straight men talk A LOT about butts.

The first thing to think about is that straight men are not always honest about what they're attracted to. If everyone around you likes big butts, then all the other brothers would be simply fitting in by not denying. They may not particularly care for an kitty
-bitty waist and a round thing in your face. They may not, in fact, get sprung. But better to say that they do get sprung, in order to fit in with their male friends.

It actually gets even more interesting than this, though. Because attraction isn't fixed. It changes over time. It might be the case that talking about women's' butts is actually something that makes a person more likely to pay attention to women's' butts. Now that I need something to say about that ass, I may spend a bit more time checking out that ass. Initially, I just wanted to turn to my buddy and say "check out that ass," but now I'm really checking that ass out. And it occurs to me that I really like ass.

There's even a reverse version of this. If everyone around me is fixated on big butts, I might start secretly developing a fetish for tiny little butts. I'll be ashamed of it, but the shame only makes me fixate on it more, and it becomes a source of incredible sexual fixation for me.

These are only a handful of the various reasons that the men in your life might be interested in women's asses. Questions like this can't ever be answered in a simple and straightforward way. Maybe, if there's a particular man who seems particularly interested, you could ask him.

Things Guys Do That Women Simply Can't Resist

1. Give good eye contact: We're aware of how basic this sounds. Almost in the same league as "say hello" but we cannot stress enough how often this simple social pleasantry is butchered. If you're new to this, start out slow and look us in our eyes, not at the girl walking up the steps behind us. 

2. Wear a killer scent: Please approach cologne like you would flattery. Laying it on thick seems tacky and don't go for cheap and obvious. A light sprite is all it takes to let us know you've entered our space. 

3. Acknowledge the international signal for 'back off.' We suddenly have to pee. We text and a friend appears. We scoot away, mentioning a purse, bag, bartender, ATM, a slice of pizza that needs to be found/retrieved/eaten. We want to leave. And we're trying to be polite. Please take the hint. Thanks. 

4. Lend an attentive ear. We want to know all about why you think Obama's healthcare plan sucks, your musical gripes with the Arctic Monkeys, and how your neighbourhood has the best Thai in the whole city. Really. We do. But if we're rattling on about the epiphany we had while backpacking through Greece, PIPE DOWN AND LISTEN. Refer to #1. Wait for a pause, another beat for good measure, and then politely work in your opinions about hostels in Amsterdam. 

5. Sport a big-boy accessory. Spending a month's pay on a gold medallion isn't going to charm the pants off us. But never underestimate the brownie points you'll earn when we surreptitiously notice a nice, understated watch. Or pair of shoes, a slick jacket or a nifty haircut. Just a sprinkling to let us know you've progressed beyond backwards baseball caps and basketball jerseys. 

the women's secret desires

The truth is women have many secrets about what they like AND what they don't like from guys during sex. Probably right at this moment, your woman really wants you do things during sex which you not be aware of. If you can discover her hidden desires, then you'll rock her world.


She doesn't want you to go for hours


Many guys think the key to pleasing a woman is to have the sexual stamina of a marathon runner and go for hours. The problem is women get tired (and sore) during a long sex session. Secretly your woman wants you to please her without subjecting her to a lengthy sex session. If you can please her in a half an hour, then she really won't care if you can go for hours.

She sometimes wants sex, not romance


While all women profess a love for romantic lovemaking filled with candles and soft music, sometimes they want sex to be a little dirty... and well sometimes downright primal. Even though romance is an important part of the sexual experience, there are often moments when you can score some serious points simply by acting in a VERY non-romantic manner. For instance, she'll sometimes wants you to simply rip her clothes off and have a quickie.

She wants YOU to be in control


It's a simple truth. Women want to be with men who act like MEN. This means you should never behave in a lower status man and act like you don't know what you're doing in the bedroom. Simply put, you have to act like a man when you're having sex.

Being a man is about knowing the specific things which pleases your woman and then DOING them. So when you're in the bedroom, don't act timid or shy. Instead give off the aura that you're completely confident during sex and you're in complete control of her pleasure.


She wants to try new things


There are a lot of different sexual experiences your woman secretly wants. Whether it's a bit of role playing, threesomes or even the "big A", she's probably privately fantasizing about stuff you can with her (or to her). The important thing to remember is everybody has fantasies. Your job is to coax them out of her and then work hard to fullfill them.

She wants it in the morning


Guys are known for the ability to be ready for sex in 3.5 seconds. Women on the other hand profess a desire for extensive foreplay. That's the reason why many guys think women don't want a "quickie" in the morning. However the truth is a lot of women secretly want a bit of sex in the morning before they start the day. Simply try to initiate things in the morning and you'll be surprised at her response

Tips for breast cancer prevention

1. Avoid becoming overweight. Obesity raises the risk of breast cancer after menopause, the time of life when breast cancer most often occurs. Avoid gaining weight over time, and try to maintain a body-mass index under 25 .

2. Eat healthy to avoid tipping the scale. Embrace a diet high in vegetables and fruit and low in sugared drinks, refined carbohydrates and fatty foods. Eat lean protein such as fish or chicken breast and eat red meat in moderation, if at all. Eat whole grains. Choose vegetable oils over animal fats.

3. Keep physically active. Research suggests that increased physical activity, even when begun later in life, reduces overall breast-cancer risk by about 10 percent to 30 percent. All it takes is moderate exercise like a 30-minute walk five days a week to get this protective effect.

4. Drink little or no alcohol. Alcohol use is associated with an increased risk of breast cancer. Women should limit intake to no more than one drink per day, regardless of the type of alcohol.


5. Don’t smoke. Research suggests that long-term smoking is associated with increased risk of breast cancer in some women.

6. If you bear children, breast-feed your babies for as long as possible. Women who breast-feed their babies for at least a year in total have a reduced risk of developing breast cancer later.

7. Avoid hormone replacement therapy. Menopausal hormone therapy increases risk for breast cancer. If you must take hormones to manage menopausal symptoms, avoid those that contain progesterone and limit their use to less than three years. “Bioidentical hormones” and hormonal creams and gels are no safer than prescription hormones and should also be avoided.

8. Get regular breast cancer screenings. Follow your doctor or health care provider’s recommendations to decide what type of screening you need and how often you need it.

If you are at high risk for breast cancer, such as having a particular gene like a BRCA gene, or have a strong family history or have had high-risk benign breast disease in the past, talk with your doctor about other options for you which might include:

A. Extra screenings. For some women, MRI or ultrasound screenings can add valuable information to regular mammogram screening.

B. Estrogen-blocking drugs. Women with a family history of breast cancer or who are over age 60 should talk to their doctor about the pros and cons of estrogen-blocking drugs such as tamoxifen, raloxifene, and aromatase inhibitors.

C. Prophylactic surgery to remove breasts and/or ovaries. Women who have had both breasts surgically removed reduce their risk of breast cancer by over 90 percent. Women who have had both ovaries removed have about half the risk of developing breast cancer as women with intact ovaries. Clearly these options are most appropriate for women at very high risk.

Actual Women Describe What Makes A 'Good-Looking' Penis

According to the American Urological Association, hypochondrias is a condition where the meat us, or the penis’s opening to the outside, isn’t located at the tip of the penis, but on the underside of the penis. Over 80 percent of boys born with this condition have “distal” hypochondrias, meaning the meat us is located near the end of the penis. Hypochondrias is a relatively common birth defect found in one out of every 200 boys.

Researchers from Switzerland recruited 105 women from various age groups, including 16 to 20, 25 to 30, and 40 to 45, to complete a questionnaire regarding how they perceive certain aspects of penile appearance. This included whether hypochondrias-affected surgically repaired genitals (Hastings) was considered as normal-looking as circumcised genitals. Participants were asked to view photos of 10 Hastings and 10 circumcised genitals and rate the importance of certain penile aspects.

Out of all penile aspects, women participating in the study found the position and shape of the urethral opening to be the least important in terms of a penis’s appearance. They also found that the genitals of men who underwent surgery to correct distal hypochondrias appeared as normal-looking as circumcised genitals. However, the genitals of men with proximal hypochondrias — when the meats is located anywhere between the middle of the shaft and the base, or even in the scrotum — were considered less normal.

"The information may help prevent the development of shame or impaired genital perceptions about penile appearance," Dr. Norma Ruppen, lead researcher from the Department of Paediatric Surgery at University Children’s Hospital Zurich in Switzerland, said in a statement.

What about curved penises? A curvature of the penis when erect is actually pretty common among most men and occurs due to the fact that human anatomy is rarely symmetrical. On the other hand, an extreme curvature of the penis, known as Peyronie’s disease, often results in painful erections for men in their 40s, 50s, or 60s. Just remember guys, above all else, women are most interested in confidence. Wear it like a badge of honer.

Breaking Up is As Painful As Being BURNED By Hot Poker, Says Study

Love hurts.

Heartache is like being burned with a red-hot poker. Yeah, if only that was metaphorical lingo.

According to the Los Angeles Times, a study has found that our brains don't differentiate between physical pain (like that of injury or disease) and pangs of the heart, like the ones we experience after getting dumped. So, basically, we do experience actual pain for our lost loves.

Researchers at the University of Michigan, Columbia University, and the University of Colorado rounded up 40 recent dupes and put them through a brain scanner. They watched as each subject looked at a photo of her ex and relived the emotional anguish of the breakup.

During these experiments, the love-scorned individuals registered an eight out of 10 on the laboratory pain scale. To put this in perspective, the researchers said if we held a red-hot poker to your arm, you'd experience the same level of pain. Love hurts.

The scans performed in the study reveal that our brains respond to physical and emotional pain in the same way. Up until this point, two areas of the brain that respond to pain were thought of as hot spots for physical hurt only. But that's not the case, as this research shows. 

Although this study points to the similarities between physical and emotional wounds, it also highlights a distinct difference.

If you get your finger slammed in a car door, you'll feel angry, upset and distressed, and you'll know exactly where that ache is coming from. If you get your heart broken, you'll experience the same emotions — you just won't be able to pinpoint the source of the pain. Lovely, right?

What are we taking away from this research? We'll never again say love doesn't burn, because science says it scorches like a red-hot poker.

Health Benefits of Sex

Less Stress

If you're freaking out about tomorrow's job interview, slip between the sheets. Research from the University of the West of Scotland reveals that people who had intercourse at least once over two weeks were better able to manage stressful situations such as public speaking, says study author and psychology professor Stuart Brody, Ph.D. That's because endorphins and oxytocin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones activate pleasure centers in the brain that create feelings of intimacy and relaxation and help stave off anxiety and depression, says WH advisor Laura Berman, Ph.D., an assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University and author of It's Not Him, It's You! You don't have to climax to net the effects, but you'll get the biggest surge of soothing hormones if you have an orgasm. Just one more reason to shoot for a stellar finish! 

Sounder Sleep

It's downright dreamy how an O can lull you to sleep. That's because the same endorphins that help you de-stress can also relax your mind and body, priming you for slumber, says Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D., director of the Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Texas at Austin and coauthor of Why Women Have Sex. Plus, during orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released. "Prolactin levels are naturally higher when we sleep, which suggests a strong relationship between the two," she says. But if you're wild in the sack, take note: Highly active sex can make you feel more energized than sleepy. Sex should never be a snooze, but if you want to use knocking boots as a sleep aid, skip the acrobatics and opt for a subdued session. 

Minimized Pain

Talk about flipping the script: "Yes, tonight, honey—I have a headache." The surge of hormones released after an orgasm can help ease any annoying ache, whether it's a strained back or a head pounder, says Meston. A study conducted at the Headache Clinic at Southern Illinois University found that half of female migraine sufferers reported relief after climaxing. "The endorphins that are released during an orgasm closely resemble morphine, and they effectively relieve pain," says Meston. Have a migraine but your man isn't around? Self-medicate by treating yourself with some solo sex. As long as you hit your peak, masturbating will have the same soothing effect. 

Fewer Colds

There's nothing sexy about sneezing, wheezing, or that runny-nose look. But getting hot and bothered can help you avoid coming down with the sniffles: People who have sex were found to have higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A (IgA), according to researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania. These antibodies help combat diseases and keep the body safe from colds and flu. Save up your sick days and use them as sex days! 

A Youthful Glow

Get busy to get gorgeous: In a study conducted at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland, a panel of judges viewed participants through a one-way mirror and guessed their ages. Those who were enjoying lots of nooky with a steady partner—four times a week, on average—were perceived to be seven to 12 years younger than their actual age. Regular sex promotes the release of hormones, including testosterone and estrogen, which can keep the body looking young and vital; estrogen has also been shown to promote soft skin and shiny hair, says Meston. Move over, moisturizer—time to turn back the clock with some shagging. 

Lighter Periods (with Fewer Cramps)

"When a woman orgasms, her uterus contracts and, in the process, rids the body of cramp-causing compounds," explains Meston. The increased number of uterine contractions can also help expel blood and tissue more quickly, helping to end your period faster, she adds. 

Going horizontal while menstruating has also been shown to help decrease the risk for endometriosis, a common condition in which uterine tissue grows outside of the uterus, causing pelvic pain and sex that hurts, according to researchers at Yale University School of Medicine. 

Sex during your period may not sound too appealing, but don't stress over making a mess. Just lay down a dark-colored towel and stick to missionary; when you're lying down, your flow tends to be lighter, says WH advisor Michelle Callahan, Ph.D., author of Ms. Typed: Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships and Find Dating Success.

A More Toned Bod

Sex counts as cardio! A romp can burn anywhere from 85 to 250 calories, depending on the length of the session (obviously a quickie will be less strenuous than an all-night pleasurefest), says Meston. In fact, cardiologists consider sexual activity comparable to a modest workout on a treadmill, according to a study published in The American Journal of Cardiology. 

Not only will your ticker get a workout, but you'll also squeeze in some sculpting: "Your abs and the muscles in your back, butt, and thighs get a good workout as you thrust during sex," says Hutcherson. Looks like you have a pretty good reason to skip spin class on Sunday morning and work up a sweat in bed.

Tighten and Lift your Booty in 5 Minutes

Routine Structure

10 Intervals of Butt Lift Exercises
25 Seconds Active
5 Seconds Rest/Transition Time
5 Minutes Total

Kneeling Rear Leg Raises – Start on forearms and knees, bend the knee to a 90 degree angle and lift so that you feel the burning in your glutes. Repeat an interval on each side of the body.

Kneeling Rear Leg Raise Pulses – Here we take the exercise above, and dial up the burn even more by limiting the range of motion to just the top of the movement. Do these slow, controlled pulses on each side of the body. You will feel this in your butt, your hamstrings, and lower back, possibly even in your shoulders because of the stabilizing work that they have to do. Do one interval for each side of the body.

45 AngleLifts – The varied angle on this lift tackles the glute muscles in an entirely different way than the raise done straight back. This is great for shaping the glutes, helping you keep or get a round booty. Repeat on left and right sides.

Squats – One of the best exercises you could possibly do for your booty and general lower body. Stand with feet shoulder width apart and bend your knees to stick your butt out behind you, keeping your knees behind your toes. Focus on pressing up through your heels and you will really feel it in your glutes.

Squat Pulses – You guys know I love the painful pulsing motions by now, right? You can nearly literally feel your body reshaping itself with the tortuous pulses! Here you will spend an entire 25 second interval in a squat, pulsing at the bottom of the range of the motion, making sure to use smooth motions. You can always take a break if you need to, but do what you can to push through the burning muscles in your legs.

Bridges – Lie on your back with your knees bent so that your feet are flat on the ground. Squeeze those glutes and press your torso and lower body off of the ground so that your weight now balances on your upper shoulders and feet. Lower back down, and repeat.

Swinging Bridges – Stay in the bridge position described above. Press up through those feet and “swing” your hips to the left, then slowly dip back down through the center, and then back up to the right. Continue this rocking motion for the entire interval, enjoying the screaming bum muscles that are the telltale sign of the development of a perky, firm tucus.

Health Benefits of Masturbation for Women and Men

Here are masturbation tips to consider:

Book some alone time. You aren’t going to be able to get in the mood if you are worried about someone walking in or being interrupted by a ringing telephone. Wait until you have plenty of time to yourself and you know you will not be disturbed.

Stimulate the senses. Take a hot bath, light some candles or play some music. It might feel silly to romance yourself, but it can help you to get relaxed and in the mood, especially if you have never masturbated before.

Use a sex toy. Whether you are a man or a woman, sex aids can greatly help to increase your sexual pleasure when it comes to intercourse, foreplay, or masturbation. Sex toys aren’t just for singles, either! In fact, women who are in relationships are the most likely to use and own sex toys. And, 60 percent of women who masturbate report using a sex toy to help reach gratification.

Practice makes perfect. It’s okay if you don’t reach orgasm right away. Practice makes perfect, especially when it comes to learning your own sexual response. Nor should you feel embarrassed about masturbating on a regular basis! One in five women report masturbating at least once a week … so go ahead, get practicing!

Don’t make orgasm the end goal. Most of us tend to think of sex (and masturbation) as a means to an end — to reach orgasm. However, sex (whether it is with yourself or someone else) shouldn’t be goal-oriented or stressful. Don’t make orgasm a must every time, especially if you are new to masturbation. Try to get in touch with your body and discover what types of touches you enjoy. Stay present and connected to your body, and let orgasms happen rather than trying to force them.   
   
Masturbate with your partner. Masturbating with your partner is not only highly erotic, but it can also help you both to learn more about the other’s sexual response and desires. It will give you a hands-on look at what drives your partner wild and how you can best pleasure him.

The Perfect Condom for Your Penis

1. Thin and Ultra-Thin

If you want to spice things up without taking too much of a risk, these are your best bet: Most everyone loves an ultra-thin condom, White says. For most couples, the thinner shelter means more pleasure closer to a condom-free feel. And don’t worry: All rubbers go through the same rigorous testing, so thinner doesn’t mean less protection.

2. Climax Control

It seems absurd: A condom that actually makes your head less sensitive to the pleasures of sex? For some men who have no problem lasting, the desensitizing lubes can indeed lead to an anticlimactic experience, White says. But guys who need the condom equivalent of a 5-hour Energy will be pleasantly impressed by their numbing effects. The gold standard of climax-control condoms? Those that offer an arousal lubricant on the outside, so you can be slowed down while she speeds up, says White. (Try Durex Performax Intense.) 

3. Ribbed, Pleasure Shaped, and Her Pleasure

The small ridges and bumps and ergonomic shaping of these three varieties are designed specifically to give her a bigger orgasm. And while these guarantee a home run with some women, just as many find the texture uncomfortable or even undetectable, White cautions—so don’t be too disappointed if they're not her style. These kinds of condoms are also thicker than your garden-variety type, she adds. That's not neccessarily a bad thing, but it's definitely something to consider. 

4. Lambskin

These are the Crocs of condoms: Goofy-looking at first glance—they’re made from lamb instead of latex or plastic, so they’re skin-colored—but you’ll fall in love on the first test drive. “People who use lambskin condoms regularly say they will never use anything else,” White says. They offer ultra-enhanced sensitivity, durability—which means they’re great for girthy guys—and they’re latex-free. Sound too good to be true? They do have a smell that may take getting used to, White warns. And while they do prevent pregnancy, lambskins don’t protect against STDs, so they’re only ideal for monogamous couples. Trojan’s Naturalamb Luxury is the only “natural skin” condom on the market right now.

5. Spermicide

Designed to stop your swimmers in their tracks, spermicide adds another fortification to some condoms to prevent pregnancy. However, the chemical can cause irritation if used more than once a day, and it doesn’t protect against HIV or STDs. Use these condoms if you're in a long-term relationship, and trade them out for your second go-around of the day. 

6. Sensation Lubes

A 2013 study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that men who used a condom with lube became as aroused as guys who didn’t rock a rubber at all. “Simply put, exposing your most delicate parts to latex will dry you and your partner up, no matter how excited you both may be,” White explains. You can add a water-based or silicone-based lubricant to whatever brand you buy, but an oil-based lube used with latex ups the risk of your condom breaking.

A lot of rubbers come lubricated, though, and sometimes with added sensation. While varieties like Trojan’s Fire & Ice sound exciting, White says most couples actually find most of these condoms to be too stimulating—think Icy Hot on your most sensitive of places. Her suggestion? Lifestyles Turbo and Trojan Charged are two great lubricated varieties that'll add just enough excitement to help send her over the edge.

7. Latex-Free

Just like for people with food allergies dining out, latex-sensitive guys have a smaller selection of non-irritating gloves. While some people can go into anaphylactic shock from using the wrong kind of rubber, a lot of men and women break out in hive-like rashes, extreme dryness, or even eczema from contact with latex. Luckily, more and more companies are responding with condoms made from an alternative material, polyisoprene. White’s favorite is LifeStyle’s SKYN line, which she says are so pleasurable, even couples without a latex sensitivity opt for them.